Ok I read the do not buy list and MANY of her items I don't agree with.
I love hoodies under blazers and have long before Miu Miu's runway show. I leverage hoodies often to add friction to an outfit and bring it down a notch.
Leggings as pants I don't do often but I love how it looks with a blazer and my Bottega lug boots
Bicycle shorts I live in the summer, again, love with a blazer (can you tell I love blazers? 😅)
Pearls are timeless, the ones I wear I dont wear often but I like incorporating them from time to time, and again can add fun friction to an otherwise casual outfit
Torn jeans?! I LIVE in my margelia slash jeans. I think this is the one I rolled my eyes at the most
I'm hear for the socks in dainty sandals, I live in Canada and this extends my wardrobe and again can add some fun friction and unexpected elements to an outfit
Anyways... To each their own and I generally hate it when someone trys to tell strangers what not to wear in broad strokes.
Jacquie, i feel your passion for this topic jumping off the page! 😅 I think it’s interesting how we react when someone says they don’t like something we value. As I eluded to in the piece, my own tendency is to doubt myself rather than defend. I’m working on that 😉.
To be fair to Tiia, this was her personal no buy list (not for others), and then readers started coming up with their own! And I’ll be posting my in the next couple of weeks!
I appreciate and admire your passion to defend the items on my list!
I wanted to take the opportunity to clarify that my personal Do Not Buy List is just my personal exercise, and its intention is for me to stop buying things that I know I would not wear for one reason or another, not to shame others or to tell others what not to wear. I frequently admire the items on my list on other people, but I just know I wouldn't get wear out of them!
This definitely came across in your newsletter Tiia! I found it helpful to read your list as I grapple with my own personal likes and dislikes/which trends I’m open to and which ones I aim to avoid. Thank you!
I think that is a fair distinction and SO important to be aware of what you know you won't wear. We all fall victim to buying things that we end up not getting wear out, and it's a constant exercise to remember when shopping what feels like 'you' verses realizing you're buying something that other people may admire, but doesn't feel authentic to you.
Irene, you are by far the most stylish person I've ever seen wearing a balaclava! It totally works on you, and bonus points for the fact that it serves a practical purpose, too.
As always, thank you for the shout-out. I feel honored to be a part of the In Moda Veritas conversation!
Agreed! Irene, I am amazed at how elegantly you look in your balaclava! I wore one by Ralph Lauren twenty years ago and boy did it keep me warm. Despite this, I ended up getting rid of it because I realized that I didn’t like how it looked on me. Like Tiia, I have a personal negative connotation around them, but mine is based on a character in a film I saw many years ago. So interesting how our personal experiences shape our style (I think of acid washed jeans as another example for me). In any case, keep rockin’ the balaclava, Irene, I am a great admirer of your style!
Haha, thanks Lisa! Your comment reminded me of picking baby names? Just thinking of one person that you negatively associate the name with can knock it off the list for good!
I loved reading your inner musings while going through Tiia's no-buy list. Especially because ... IT ME! Pearls! I will not quit you! But I know on my no list are items I love on others. Just a no for me. And you do not look like a big baby. That made me giggle though. XO
I was a Tibi style class enthusiast during the pandemic and I was a victim of this exposure effect after a couple of months. However, I had already been thinking about personal style and had a stronger sense of my preferences; I refuse to wear any variation of a blazer, button up/button down, knit twin set, or maxi skirt (the denim maxis feel too religiously charged for an atheist, and the pleated ones feel so prissy to me). Hence, thought exercises like Tiia’s list are crucial to avoid blinding yourself by someone else’s strong point of view.
I love hearing about everyone's Do Not Buy items! Can't quite pinpoint why, but probably because my shopping options are narrowed down if I read that someone, whose opinion I respect, doesn't approve? Amy comes to mind.
Love this conversation. I bought my first balaklava last January. And I thought that I was really late on the trend, but I wanted to try and a slow fashion influencer sold the perfect one that her mother had made. I loved it from first moment and longed for winter to use it again. This January I bought my second one. Again I hesitated- do I need two? I bought this one from a person who made it her self with the best color-combination. I love what it gives to my winter coats. And the warmth on ears and neck!!!!
Ok I read the do not buy list and MANY of her items I don't agree with.
I love hoodies under blazers and have long before Miu Miu's runway show. I leverage hoodies often to add friction to an outfit and bring it down a notch.
Leggings as pants I don't do often but I love how it looks with a blazer and my Bottega lug boots
Bicycle shorts I live in the summer, again, love with a blazer (can you tell I love blazers? 😅)
Pearls are timeless, the ones I wear I dont wear often but I like incorporating them from time to time, and again can add fun friction to an otherwise casual outfit
Torn jeans?! I LIVE in my margelia slash jeans. I think this is the one I rolled my eyes at the most
I'm hear for the socks in dainty sandals, I live in Canada and this extends my wardrobe and again can add some fun friction and unexpected elements to an outfit
Anyways... To each their own and I generally hate it when someone trys to tell strangers what not to wear in broad strokes.
Jacquie, i feel your passion for this topic jumping off the page! 😅 I think it’s interesting how we react when someone says they don’t like something we value. As I eluded to in the piece, my own tendency is to doubt myself rather than defend. I’m working on that 😉.
To be fair to Tiia, this was her personal no buy list (not for others), and then readers started coming up with their own! And I’ll be posting my in the next couple of weeks!
I appreciate and admire your passion to defend the items on my list!
I wanted to take the opportunity to clarify that my personal Do Not Buy List is just my personal exercise, and its intention is for me to stop buying things that I know I would not wear for one reason or another, not to shame others or to tell others what not to wear. I frequently admire the items on my list on other people, but I just know I wouldn't get wear out of them!
This definitely came across in your newsletter Tiia! I found it helpful to read your list as I grapple with my own personal likes and dislikes/which trends I’m open to and which ones I aim to avoid. Thank you!
Hi Tiia!
I think that is a fair distinction and SO important to be aware of what you know you won't wear. We all fall victim to buying things that we end up not getting wear out, and it's a constant exercise to remember when shopping what feels like 'you' verses realizing you're buying something that other people may admire, but doesn't feel authentic to you.
Irene, you are by far the most stylish person I've ever seen wearing a balaclava! It totally works on you, and bonus points for the fact that it serves a practical purpose, too.
As always, thank you for the shout-out. I feel honored to be a part of the In Moda Veritas conversation!
Agreed! Irene, I am amazed at how elegantly you look in your balaclava! I wore one by Ralph Lauren twenty years ago and boy did it keep me warm. Despite this, I ended up getting rid of it because I realized that I didn’t like how it looked on me. Like Tiia, I have a personal negative connotation around them, but mine is based on a character in a film I saw many years ago. So interesting how our personal experiences shape our style (I think of acid washed jeans as another example for me). In any case, keep rockin’ the balaclava, Irene, I am a great admirer of your style!
Haha, thanks Lisa! Your comment reminded me of picking baby names? Just thinking of one person that you negatively associate the name with can knock it off the list for good!
Oh my gosh, that’s SO true!!
I loved reading your inner musings while going through Tiia's no-buy list. Especially because ... IT ME! Pearls! I will not quit you! But I know on my no list are items I love on others. Just a no for me. And you do not look like a big baby. That made me giggle though. XO
I don’t think I do either! I thought of you when I read “red socks”!
Thank you so much for sharing about the pleated bag! So cool and if fits a laptop?!?! It is officially now on my shopping list.
Oh yes! I posted photos in the last chat thread! Have a look!
Ditto! I’m going to Japan this year and it’s on my list to buy locally.
So exciting!! Where are you going in Japan?
Tokyo only for a work trip so I won’t have much time to explore but I’ve never been.
Cool!
Team Balaclava/full size baby 🙋🏻♀️
😅😅😅
I was a Tibi style class enthusiast during the pandemic and I was a victim of this exposure effect after a couple of months. However, I had already been thinking about personal style and had a stronger sense of my preferences; I refuse to wear any variation of a blazer, button up/button down, knit twin set, or maxi skirt (the denim maxis feel too religiously charged for an atheist, and the pleated ones feel so prissy to me). Hence, thought exercises like Tiia’s list are crucial to avoid blinding yourself by someone else’s strong point of view.
I love hearing about everyone's Do Not Buy items! Can't quite pinpoint why, but probably because my shopping options are narrowed down if I read that someone, whose opinion I respect, doesn't approve? Amy comes to mind.
Love the way you chose to style the sheer long sleeve shirt! Adding to my “try list” next time I’m playing in the closet.
🙌🏻 feel free to share your look in the thread!
Love this conversation. I bought my first balaklava last January. And I thought that I was really late on the trend, but I wanted to try and a slow fashion influencer sold the perfect one that her mother had made. I loved it from first moment and longed for winter to use it again. This January I bought my second one. Again I hesitated- do I need two? I bought this one from a person who made it her self with the best color-combination. I love what it gives to my winter coats. And the warmth on ears and neck!!!!
I knit my own balaclava out of the softest yarn ever! It’s love it. Wish I could send a pic.
That's so cool, Jennifer! Please do? You can drop it in the last chat thread?